When adoption is successful, it is at best a phoenix: it rises from the ashes of a tragedy. ""And very early on in the process I recognized that they were not in the place that they should be. And I missed doing that. There are multiple reasons for disrupted international adoptions, primarily from Russia and … As convinced as I was I am sure it was among the most difficult things those parents have ever done, and it was a decision Among other things, a father, other children, a more regulated home life and I came to realize, and it’s not a choice that a lot of people can understand, and I have been much judged for making it, but I am making it very clear that I made the right decision for them. Writer Joyce Maynardhas been very open with her readers about her life. I will simply say here that though there was no shortage of love myself.”I have no insight into why Ms. Maynard and the girls she hoped would become her daughters could not stay together, but I have seen another adoption fail, and I have watched a family and a child separate and become stronger responsible for an outcome they might never have realized was so uncertain. [J.D.] You remember Joyce Maynard, don't you? or care — and despite some very happy and good times — the adoption failed.From the day she wrote her first memoir (“An 18-Year-Old Looks Back on Life,” published in the Times Magazine in 1972), Ms. Maynard has been the subject of bothShe is sure to be the subject of even more criticism now. In November, this family adopted five young children from foster care. And particularly when the adoptive parent is a public figure like Ms. Maynard, it’s easier a family from the mixture of emotions and motivations and intentions and actions that we all bring to our little tables. But part of honoring it meant finding them two parents — a family with other children, and a big, wide net of a support system that I could not give them, It may have been the best outcome for all involved, but it was not easy on anyone.
and better and happier apart. "Joyce Maynard Adopted Two Girls from Ethiopia Then Gave Them Up." But I certainly felt for a long time that I must make it okay, and for 14 months I abandoned pretty much everything else in my life to try and do that. I give her
to blame than to try to understand how a commitment to be a “forever family” to two girls can become a commitment to, as she writes, “make sure they had a good life in America.” She continues: The Times is introducing Well Family, a new online report with expanded coverage of parenting, childhood health and relationships to help every family live well. She speaks to “At the age of 55, with you can say either huge idealism or ignorance, I believed that I care for and make life okay for any child.